To the mom who’s tired

I am tired. I am a mom.

I think if you were to look in the dictionary under the word tired, you would probably see “mom” as one of the definitions. Being tired is part of the job. Being tired seems to be a way of life for moms of young children.

I read something earlier this week that said being tired is not a sin. That was like chocolate for the soul. Rich, deep, dark chocolate. It’s warmth and sweetness sank into every crack and crevice of this  mama’s soul. This mama’s tired and worn out soul.

Being a mama isn’t always about just being physically tired either. We can be well rested, get plenty of sleep, feel awake and alert…yet still feel tired. Still feel that tiredness ache.

Being tired is SO much more than just physical.

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I think as mom’s sometimes we let this voice creep in that tells us if we are tired we must not really LOVE our children. We must be tired because we are not enough, strong enough, doing enough, or a good enough mom… all the GOOD mom’s are never tired. I see them in their yoga pants and expensive hot pink sneakers. They are always so bright eyed and bushy tailed. They have make up on and their hair is actually brushed… and washed. They bounce around like they are the energy source for the sun.  I must not be GOOD enough. WHYYYYYYY am I so tired!? I SUCK at this motherhood thing. We look at these moms and think all these things. Let the enemy whisper lies into our emotionally tired, an extra vulnerable, hearts, when the truth is….

maybe they just drank a crap ton of coffee, and are trying to hide the fact that they TOO are tired (I think some of these moms must have a hidden IV somewhere under that perfectly styled outfit though. And maybe taking shots of 5 hour energy every 2.5 hours)

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Being tired is something we ALL experience. At any given point in our mother journey we will experience:

Physical tiredness
Spiritual tiredness
Emotional tiredness
Mental tiredness

The sooner us mamas realize it is not wrong to feel tired, the less tired I think we will feel.

When we are physically tired, it is OK to let the dishes sit in the sink so you can sit down for a few minutes. It is OK to let the kids watch an extra show…. or two…

When we are spiritually tired, let the laundry wait and spend some time with Jesus, reading His word, or encouraging books. Anything that helps refill your spiritual soul

When we are emotionally tired, TELL someone. You don’t have to pretend you are not hurting. Tell a friend. Your spouse. Your own mother (because, truth is, she HAS been there done that, and could have some wisdom to give)

When you are mentally tired choose to focus on things that don’t take alot of brain power. It really is OK.

We ALL need rest. As long as we are in our physical bodies, tiredness comes with the territory. It isn’t a sign of weakness. It isn’t a sign that we are not strong enough. It isn’t a sign that we suck at motherhood. It isn’t something we need to stuff down and hide for fear of looking like a failure in front of others. In fact, that will just make our already tired soul even MORE tired (emotionally especially!)

Jesus himself grew tired and weary.

It isn’t a sin to be tired mamas. It isn’t a sign of weakness. It isn’t a sign that you are failing as a mom. It isn’t a sign that you are a bad mom… in fact…

I think being tired is a sign you are a GOOD one.

❤ XOXO
~Emily

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Here we go again…

endoftheworldI am guessing the world is NOT ending today. SURPRISE!!! How many “predictions” do we need to have before we realize we CANNOT know when the World will end?! Only God the Father knows, and I quite like it that way.

“But concerning that day and hour no one knows, not even the angels of heaven, nor the Son, but the Father only. Matthew 24:36

Can you imagine how we would be living if we knew!? It would be MASS CHAOS. People would be hoarding Spam and Twinkies (wait, or those still available?) and tearing their homes down to build atomic bomb shelters, not that either of those will actually SAVE you when the world actually DOES end. People. Get over yourself. You are not God, nor are you anywhere close!

kaboomSo, while those end of the world crazies are wondering how they can make Christmas dinner with spam and beans… I am sitting here enjoying some Dunkin Donuts Gingerbread Cookie flavored coffee. I am drinking it in my awesome red crate and barrel snowman cup. My awesome mom gave us a 4 mug set with little plates one  year! I love snowman.  And I hear the girls giggle with their little neighbor friend in the background. So, if this is the end of the World, it is pretty fantastic.

I had some interesting dreams last night. I guess all this talk, jokes, and me reading about it, put it in my mind subconsciously, because I dreamed I was in the movie Knowing, only Andrew was Nicholas Cage (in order for that to happen, andrew would have to grow a foot, shave his beard and start going bald lol) and we were trying to get Katie and Holly onto that space ship thing, where they would fly to their own planet, meet some boys a repopulate the new earth, or whatever was supposed to happen in that movie. IT. WAS. STRANGE. LOL… though now,I kinda wanna watch that movie. Perhaps I will today. I think it would be appropriate, yes?

Speaking of Katie. There was one thing in all this nonsense that was pretty amazing, and it reminded me where our home really is…

new heavenI was joking about the end of the world to Andrew, Katie and Holly were playing, but of course, kids hear all the things you don’t want them too, and none of the things you do… because she looked up at me and said “Mommy! Do we get to go to heaven tomorrow and see Jesus?!” Little thing was so excited. It was precious. I explained to her that some people like to think they are like God, and tell everyone when they World will end. She thought this was dumb because only God knows (smart cookie I tell ya lol) but then she looked at me and told me that even if it did end, it would be ok, because she would get to go be with Jesus.

UMM. Yeah. Can I say WOW!

Katie surprises me each day with how much she knows. We do not give children enough credit. Jesus knows what he is talking about when he says “let the little children come…” I think children have something we lose as adults. FAITH.

Those who are in Christ need to remember, no matter WHEN the end of the World is, we do not need to fear. This World is not our home. Heaven is. And no matter what we go through in THIS world, even if we ARE here when the end of the world happens, it will not matter once we see our Savior face to face!

So, toss aside those “predictions.” The only one we need to focus on is our Heavenly Father. Only HE knows. Trust Him. Don’t live in fear. Make the most of this life, for it fades like grass. “All flesh is like grass and all its glory like the flower of grass. The grass withers, and the flower falls, but the word of the Lord remains forever.” 1 Peter 1:24-25. Rather than freaking out whenever the next prediction comes up, let’s get out there and do the job we are called to do, so that when that day comes, MORE are ready, and less will have to spend eternity apart from Christ! Where there is always fear, pain, torment, torture, and hopelessness. Can I get an amen!?? If we shared as much as we fear monger, I have a feeling we would make a big difference.

“But our citizenship is in heaven, and from it we await a Savior, the Lord Jesus Christ, (21) who will transform our lowly body to be like his glorious body, by the power that enables him even to subject all things to himself.” Philippians 3:20-21

Say no to drugs

Do you remember that commerical? I am sure EVERYONE remembers… well most everyone in my time period and before anyway 😛

This is your brain… (and its an egg)
This is your brain on drugs… (and its an egg frying.)

I am not sure how well that commercial really worked, except to make me want fried eggs, preferably over medium. Not too runny of a yolk, not to hard of a yolk. It’s JUUUUUST right, as goldilocks would say.

Anyway. We all know what kinds of “drugs” they are talking about, but I think there are things just as dangerous, if not more so, haha, than drugs! Let’s make a list. Please feel free to add. I got to thinking about this when I wrote this status today…

“Little girl clothes are like drugs.  The more you get the more you want. You know you need to quit, but can’t help yourself and keep going back for more. Addictive. They must be “laced” with something. Haha laced, get it? :P”

It got a ton of likes, lol, so I am guessing mothers of little girls totally GET that. Hey even mothers of little boys who have friends with little girls, or nieces, or even grandmas, or aunts, or whatever! Little girl clothes are just so darn cute. I especially love targets selection LOL. Thats how they draw you in. Thats how they end up taking all your money. The stores that is, lol, and the brands, not the girls. HAHA. but I am sure as my girls get older, they will do that too 😉 LOL

So, there is my list… (so far, add to it! I am SURE there are MANY things I forgot haha)

1) Little girl clothes
2) Those Italian Ice things. MAN those are good. I hate to say, it, since I was a former ICE CREAM JUNKEE, but yum. I ate 2 last night while waiting for fireworks haha
3) Ice cream. LOL. I don’t eat it as much as I used to, but it can still be like a drug. Just as addictive.
4) Coffee Cups. LOL. Yes, this may be a strange one, but I love coffee mugs! 🙂 I wish I could get all the cute ones I see, but alas, I do refrain. I love looking at them! I did at least get this super cute owl mug (the one in the pic!) from Pier 1 on clearance! WHOO loves coffee? 😉 I do! I would give coffee its own number, but since its caffiene, it kinda qualifies as a drug, lol. a very nice one though! HAHA
5) Hair ties, Hair bands, Hair clips, barrettes, etc… for me AND for the girls. ME, because I swear those things are like socks! They go missing, and you find yourself with 1 remaining out of the jumbo size pack of 583294819 you JUST bought! LOL. I think they do it on purpose…. maybe they have a built in homing device and they spring themselves back. You just THINK you lose them, but really its a plot from Goodie brand to get you to HAVE to buy more!
6) Pillows 😉 Andrew will disagree, but one can really NEVER have too many decorative pillows haha. HEY! its a cheap, fun way to change out your sofa, living room area, chairs, for the differant seasons! FUN FUN FUN! 🙂 I DID compromise. Well, really ANdrew compromised with me 😉 I have 3 pillows on the big sofa, 2 on the small sofa, and I rotate them around.
7) flip flops!!!! oh come on, I know there are many of you out there who know what I mean. I LIVE in flip flops in the summer. Old Navy cheapies, yellow box, target, whatever. I just LOVE flip flops! 😉
8) facebook. come on you know it is…. twitter, what it is you use…. these social media networks can be so addictive, along with pinterests, and things of the like
9) smart phones! HAHA
10) Lastly for now… the red bullseye, the cute little white dog with the bullseye on its eye. TARGET. Target is one of the most deadly and dangerous drugs out there HAHAHA. For me anyway 😉

What are YOUR drugs? LOL

My secret love affair with…

JOE! as in  COFFEE people! sheesh. who do you think I am!?

isn’t he handsome? LOL

I seriously can’t live without my morning cup of coffee. or two. or three.. ok so I rarely go over 2 cups. Still. I REALLY have to  have at least SOME coffee in the morning or the rest of the day just… well… stinks. I drag and drag and dont even feel fully awake. This morning I almost had a heart attack. I filled the coffee maker with water and went to get the coffee and it was GONE. THANK GOD I had bought another container. It was just hiding. Thank goodness I found it, or it wouldn’t have been pretty! LOL.

I think its more the IDEA of my cup of coffee more than the caffiene. Sometimes I may only drink half a cup, but it STILL wakes me up. The smell, the sound of it brewing.  PURE. HEAVEN. YUP thats right. I. LOVE. COFFEE. YUM! The best part of waking up is COFFEE in MY cup. I really don’t care which type it is either. Foldgers, Maxwell House… as long as it isn’t Starbucks. I’m sorry, but their regular coffee tastes AWFUL. its like someone burned it. BLECH! I like some of their “upper class” drinks. But really? for that price? i dont go often. I think they make their coffee taste like crap on purpose, as a ploy to FORCE you to drink the more expensive stuff.

Yup. that about sums it up.

If I dont have my joe, you better watch out. I may start growing green fur and my heart may shrink. Yup. I may just turn into the grinch. Fair warning people. Just sayin’. Dont mess with my coffee!

This would be me on NO coffee. NOT. PRETTY.

Coffee is my crack. LOL. The only drug I use it caffiene. Ok, and tylenol, advil and excedrin migarine. HAHA. Ok and maybe some others. Anyway, my point is caffiene is legal. I use it. I need it. I LOVE it! HAHA

 So basically to sum up this blog:

1) I love coffee
2) Coffee is my other lover
3) Don’t mess with me BEFORE coffee unless you want to be slapped, or yelled at, or both
4) I NEED coffee
5) I love coffee… wait I already said that one, well its important, I needed to say it twice 😛

I think I may be a werewolf

So, apparantly after midnight my brain goes into crazy mode. I mean, I am always a little bit crazy, but wow after midnight i am REALLY crazy. My friend had this silly video up last night that was the nativity story sung to bomhemian rhapsody. Puppets singing it, might I add. We were joking about it and it got me thinking. I just started making up songs out my butt that made no sense. I re wrote Lady Gaga’s poker face

“He was born he was born or he was born in a manger stall! Jesus came to love everybody- huh? HAHA and hey, instead of ‘ma ma ma ma” or whatever she says I could use “baa baa baa baa” like a sheep! you know since jesus was born in a stall? HAHA

Yeah don’t ask. I then wrote a new version of mary had a little lamb. I will spare you that one. I mean when one of my best friends, who KNOWS i am a bit nuts asks “What is WRONG with you?” then LOL… you know something is going on (or not going on depending on how you look at it) upstairs.

I will say. Sheesh, I had some DARN good creative ideas. So I am thinking perhaps I should just start becoming nocturnal and using those crazy creative juices to do something useful? I mean if lady gaga can write wierd music and be so popular (which I admit, she really is amazing, though her choice in words? not so great… lol) then maybe I could use my wierd song lyrics and make some moola? I mean peopel make millions of rewrites all the time? OR! I do write music anyway, maybe after midnight my songs would be even better and more awesome!? HMM…..

Unless crazy scares you? then maybe I shouldnt’ do things too much after midnight. Unless you think crazy is the new beautiful. In that case, after midnight I am Kate Moss. Well, maybe Kate moss, elf edition, since I am WAY short. I mean shoot, her leg is probably the height of my whole body haha. And really, she isnt’ that pretty… OK, well what about Nicole Kidman? or Catherine Zeta Jones (I think seh is GORGEOUS)

ok, is istn’ even midnight and I am acting a little cooky. Perhaps I should not have coffee WITH dark chocolate? OH! OR that means i can MIMIC the genious that comes to me after midnight, without having to stay up till midnight! AWESOME! 😛

my favorite times of day

So, its been a few days since I have written. since I am trying to do better at writing more often, sometimes I have to get creative about what to write about….SO! I will write about my favorite times of day 🙂

1) I love when I first wake up, ok maybe not when I FIRST wake up, as I tend to be a bit groggy haha. So, maybe after a cup (or 2 or 3 haha) of coffee is more what Im talking about 😛 BUT I do like waking up to a new day. I love seeing my sweet smiling, and giggly, girls as I get them from their beds. I love waking up to my handsome husband all dressed sexy and ready for work 🙂  I love having a new start, FRESH start. NEW mercies!

“The steadfast love of the LORD never ceases; his mercies never come to an end they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.” Lamentations 3:22-23

2) I love breakfast time, and the first hour of my day. Holly is still asleep, so I get some one on one time with Katie. Its our special time to laugh, joke, be silly 🙂 BUT then the fun REALLY begins when Holly wakes up 😉 that little smiling bundle of energy can brighten even the DARKEST of rooms. I LOVE seeing those girls play together! If Katie is having a rough day, its so amazing to see how my little 11 month old baby girl can make katie smile and laugh 🙂 LOVE IT!

“Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.” Psalms 127:3-5

3) I love the days we run errands together. CHEESY. I KNOW. Sometimes, I admit, I get nervous thinking abotu getting the kids out the door, or dont feel like getting them out, etc… but I am always glad when I do! Katie and Holly are just both so observant! I love pointing things out to them. I love teaching Katie new things. Like the word “experiment” or “observation” – she loves science and nature and love telling me things god has made and how beautiful they are. I am a science major, so each morning we have a little “experiment” haha. I love when we are out and she sees things I dont’even see. I love watching Holly interract with her sister and try to contort her body all the way around just to get a glimpse of her big sister. I love being able to teach them about God’s word and God’s love no matter where we are…whether it be Wal-Mart, Target, the mall, playground, barnes and noble, library, even the doctor, lol. Its so cool!!! Call me lame, lol, I know 😉

“Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6 ESV

“You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.” Deuteronomy 6:7

4) I love naptime (same goes for bedtime), but not for the reason one may think. I LOVE snuggling my girls. I LOVE rocking them. I LOVE watching their little eyes get heavy. Katie is getting big so fast and so is Holly. Katie is getting more independent, and I can already tell Holly is the type to WANT to be, so I just LOVE holding their little warm bodies rocking them to drowsiness, because I know they need me. They melt into me and me into them. They hold me, and have their little hands on my chest or their little heads tucked under my arm or on my shoulder. they are at peace. PERFECT peace. What a PERFECT picture of life in Christ. They are so dependent on us, no matter HOW much it may seem they “aren’t” or dont “want to  be” They have complete faith in us. Its a perfect picture of “child like faith” – dont get me wrong, some days the break alone is nice too, but that really isn’t the reason I love naptime/bedtime 🙂 in fact, I may seem odd, but I kind of miss my girlies when they are sleeping! In fact, last night, I had the strong urge to go in, after they were asleep, and just hold them 😉 I didn’t though, I know they both need their space to sleep…but I came close! 😉

“He called a little child to him, and placed the child among them. And he said: “Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. Therefore, whoever takes the lowly position of this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven. And whoever welcomes one such child in my name welcomes me.” Matthew 18:2-5

“And they were bringing children to him that he might touch them, and the disciples rebuked them. But when Jesus saw it, he was indignant and said to them, “Let the children come to me; do not hinder them, for to such belongs the kingdom of God. Truly, I say to you, whoever does not receive the kingdom of God like a child shall not enter it.” And he took them in his arms and blessed them, laying his hands on them.” Mark 10:13-16

5) I love when “daddy” comes home. I love being a family. I MISS my husband when he is at work 🙂 is that silly!? I love when the girls scream DADDY!!!! ok well katie screams it and runs to him laughing excitedly and gives him a big hug. I love seeing andrew scoop her up in his arms and kiss her little cheeks. Holly says DADA and starts giggling, probably because she  hears her big sister giggle, but she knows daddy’s home too. She will try and walk to him, then fall, then RUN crawl to him, her little hands pitter pattering so fiercly on the wood floor haha. SO CUTE 🙂 Andrew is such a wonderful father. He is loving to the girls, AND to me. I love having him come home. I love when he explains to the girls he needs to hug me first 😉 they LOVE seeing their mommy and daddy hug and Katie squeals with delight when andrew gives me a sweet kiss on the cheek or lips 🙂

“As a father has compassion on his children, so the LORD has compassion on those who fear him” Psalm 103:13

6) another time of day I love and treasure, that comes because of bedtime, is my time with my husband. I know we need to nuture that time. I know that now Andrew is my first earthly priority as my husband. I think when 2 people are married with kids, it is definitely important for the kids to see that. Andrew and I are not perfect by any means. I snap too much. I know I probably nag too much. Ok. I KNOW I nag too much…but I still love him. I hope that Katie and Holly can clearly see that. If they can’t, I am doing something dreadfully wrong. I think when kids see their parents are in love and getting along, it makes them less anxious. The times I mess up, or yell, or snap at andrew, i can see that Katie gets really nervous and anxious. The bible has so many things on marriage and its relationship…too many to go into on here. If you want to read more, start here… 

“That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” Genesis 2:24

Ok, so I guess really this is pretty much ALL times of day that I love! BUT what can I say!? I can’t help it! I am incredibly blessed. I love my husband and my children. I am so thankful to the Lord for giving them to me. I am so underserving! I guess the only time of day I  hate is twilight. I know I know, I am wierd. But for some reason I dont like when its too dark to see without a light, but to light for the lamp to really make a difference haha 😉 ok so there, theres a time of day I dont like 😉 But even then, its all good when my sweet giggly girls are near and my loving husband is next to me…even the scary annoying twilight seems less annoying 😛

Kids and Wall Street

Ok, I know I already wrote a blog today, but I just CANNOT resist sharing this with you! It is from my “Parenting” magazine from February. It is in the Parenting Top 10, and it’s called “How Having Kids is Like Being a Wall Street Tycoon” – HAHA, you may not think this is funny, but I sure do! LOL!

1) Your gross domestic product rises dramatically – as evidenced by the daily pailful of dirty diapers
2) You have weekly board meetings – what’s family night without Scabble or Monopoly?
3) You’re the subject of a hostile takeover – really, why should you be able to have a full night’s sleep without a toddler showing up to hog your pillow and steal the blankets?
4) You’re sentenced to several years in a maximum security facility – and it’s funny how your preschooler is better at opening the safety gates and drawer latches than you are
5) You keep a sharp eye on interest rates – in green veggies, educational television and chores
6) You dole our sweet bonuses – hey, a handful of fruit loops can work wonders on a kid who won’t get into her booster seat (I hate to admit, I have done this one! LOL!)
7) You’re on constant market watch – because with what your tween son eats these days, a sale on hamburger is a very big deal.
8. You glady accept a bailout – thanks for babysitting grandma!
9) Your bonds are extremely rewarding – and every group snuggle on the couch reminds you
10) You’re all about the perks – since you can’t get through a day without five cups of coffee

ok, so these made me laugh, I hope they made you at least giggle some as well 🙂 Thanks Parenting magazine for making me laugh!

I love God’s creatures, but. . .

I am seriously considering buying a gun and shooting some birds, and I don’t even know how to use one! (and I am scared of them! hahaha, guns, not birds, although I am sure there is a phobia out there of people scared of birds!) Anyway, would that be wrong?  Would God get mad at me?  I am thinking yes, but MAYBE if I reason with Him, He would understand.  Anyway, the reason I want to kill birds, is EVERY morning they start tweet tweeting outside the window, loudly.  It is before 5am.  Usually it doesn’t bother me too much, however, this past week has been a HORRIBLE sleep week for Katie and us.  Well probably mostly us.  Katie has been waking up a few times a night, lets out a couple of screams, then goes back to sleep, while me, it scares the living daylights out of me (even on the lowest setting, our monitor is LOUD) and then I am wide awake.  Last night, Katie screamed at 2:30, 3:30, 5:10, 6:00.  I went back to sleep after the 2:30am scream attack, only to be woken up an hour later with another scream fest, this one a little longer than the previous.  Well, I could NOT get back to sleep.  I was FINALLY about to fall back to sleep, around 4:30, and the stupid birds started.  So, another 40 min later, I was, again, about to doze off, only to be jolted senseless by yet ANOTHER scream by Katie.  ANYWAY, let’s just say it wasn’t the best night 🙂  I don’t think it bothers Katie nearly as much as us, silly babies.  Although, I can’t say that, because she is always pretty cranky after those nights.  We have no idea what is going on.  She had been a GREAT sleeper, then all of a sudden last week, this started.  We haven’t had to go in, so yay Katie, but it still wakes us up.  Teething?  who knows, we don’t see anything.  Maybe she doesn’t want to be in her sleep sack? (This is what we are trying first) Maybe she wants to sleep on her belly and when she tries to roll over hits the crib?  I HAVE NOOOOO CLUE!  I wish there was an invention you could stick to their foreheads when they cry and it would give you a read out of what they wanted “food” “diaper” “too cold” “too hot” “teething mommy!” “I want new pajamas” “I want a pony” HAHAHAHA.  All I have to say is I am truly thankful for the person who discovered coffee! 🙂 

Soul Espresso

So, I ordered some books from CBD the other week.  I saw this book that was 2.99, so I got it.  It is called “Espress for your Spirit: Hope and Humor for pooped out parents.”  It has a scripture passage for thought, a long encourarging devotional type chapter, followed by short little funny paragraphs called “Power Perks.”  The “power perks” were cute in it today!  Here they are 🙂

“A grandmother was surprised by her seven year old grandson one morning.  He had made her coffee!  She drank what was the worst tasting cup of coffee in her life.  When she got to the bottom, there were three little green army men in her cup.  Puzzled she asked, ‘Honey, what are the army men doing in my coffee?’ Her grandson answered, ‘Grandma, it says on TV, the best part of waking up is soliders in your cup.’ “

One summer evening during a violent thunderstorm, a mother was tucking her small boy into bed.  She was about to turn off the light when he asked with a tremor in his voice. “Mommy, will you sleep with me tonight?”  The mother smiled and gave him a reassuring hug. “I can’t dear,” she said “I have to sleep in daddy’s room.”  A long silence was broken at last by his shaking little voice. “The big sissy.”