I wrote this on a Facebook status recently, and I wanted to share it on here as well, as I think it is a good reminder for us mama’s! Motherhood is freaking hard. It is tiring and exhausting. At times frustrating and overwhelming, but in the midst of all that, we are blessed. NO MATTER WHAT.
“our children are not just a blessing when they are being good, well behaved, sleeping well, obeying well, etc etc etc. I see so many thing that say “My child sleeps so great, I am so blessed” or “My child is well behaved today, I am so blessed” or anything else that has to do with outward appearances. You know what? As parents, we are equally as blessed even when our kids are NOT being “good” or NOT being well behaved, or NOT sleeping well, or NOT obeying well, etc etc etc… because you see? THAT. IS. US. We do not always listen and obey our Father, yet He still loves us and sees us as His children. Children are a blessing. NO. MATTER. WHAT.
I would like to see this “I am blessed” crap stop on only positive things or when things are going well, and that goes for our children or anything else in life. As Christians, we are ALWAYS blessed, regardless of circumstance. Yes, of course it IS a blessing when your child sleeps well haha, or well behaved, etc… That is not the point. The point is, as Christians, we are blessed, and not just when things are going good.
Don’t have a job? You are still blessed. You are struggling in your marriage? You are still blessed. You lose someone you love? Yes, even then, we are still blessed. We are blessed because our treasure is NOT of this World. It is in heaven. We are blessed because in Christ we have eternal life. So, you know what? My 3 year old has not been listening or obeying well lately, but ya know what. I am STILL blessed and that little girl is still a HUGE blessing, regardless of what she does or doesn’t do.”
I wanted to also share a comment I made:
And I know many may see this post and think “What does SHE know about such and such” — Well, let me just tell you. I DO understand some, and here is why:
— At 12 years old we came home to find my father, dead, on the sofa with a bag over his head. He committed suicide because he snapped when he lost his job.
— Over the course of that next year, we lost 3 more family members we loved and cared about.
— I was bullied all through out K-12th grade. Spit at, kicked, made fun of, etc.
— In college, I ended up in an abusive relationship (emotional, verbal, sexual)
— After college I could not find a job for a year
— After Andrew and I had Katie, he lost HIS job. He was without a job for almost a year. We had no help, nothing.
— We were close to having no idea where we were going to live, or how we would afford it.
— We have had two babies in the NICU for the first 2 weeks plus of their lives, one coming home on an apnea monitor. Yes they are healthy now, but was very scary at first, esp when your baby stops breathing multiple times or is not eating.
— All three of my babies had colic
— Katie is what is known as a highly sensitive child, which is sometimes VERY hard to deal with. She will emotionally shut down.
I do not share all these things to rub it in people’s faces, or to somehow act like I am better or “more holy” or something, I share them because I want people to know I am not one of those “easy to say when you have a good life” type person, which I know a lot of people accuse others of when they say things like this.
Even with all those struggles, I am SO SO SO very blessed. I am thankful for each and every one of those hardships, because it not only taught me something about myself, but taught me more about the wonderful grace and love of Christ. It helped me learn about grace so I can better understand others. It made me who I am today. It increased my faith. It helped me lean on Christ and see His awesome power. It was hard, YES! I cried, ALOT, yes. I wondered and questioned, yes… but even in all of that, I was blessed because I am a child of the most High God.
I think too many people (me included at times) tend to view being blessed as when they have GOOD things going on, a lot of money, a good house, this thing or that thing, new car, etc etc etc… but that has NOTHING to do with being blessed at all. We are blessed, but we are blessed because we really don’t deserve ANYTHING. Anything we have is a blessing, even hardships, or not getting things we THINK we want or need… because as I said earlier, it teaches us about God and his faithfulness. We cannot grow in our faith is we never experience hardship. The Bible tells us to “count it pure joy” when we experience hardships or trials.
“Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. (3) For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. (4) So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing.” James 1:2-4
Let’s not act like, oh if only this were true, or if only I had this, or that, etc etc etc I would feel better, happier, more joyful, more blessed. If you are a child of the King, YOU are abundantly blessed more so than the richest person on earth who is NOT in Christ. And we are blessed regardless of your circumstances. In fact, if we stop saying “if only” and look at what we DO have, we will realize how truly blessed we already are.
So, as Christians, let’s start not only saying how thankful and blessed we feel when things are going good, let’s also start saying how blessed we are, even in the bad. I think THAT makes a much better witness and a greater testimony to others for Christ!