Being a mother isn’t easy as pie some days. It isn’t a piece of cake. It isn’t a walk in the park… or any other cheesy slogan. We don’t sit around and eat bon bons all day while watching our babies happily coo at us, while we joyfully fold the clothes in between bon bon bites. No.
Some days we forget the laundry in the washer, some days the baby is screaming at us, the toddler is coloring on the walls, the preschooler is mad at you for not letting her eat a 4th cookie, and some days we wish we had some pie or cake to eat while we hide in a closet to get 5 minutes of peace.
Sometimes motherhood is HARD
Some days royally stink.
Sometimes we feel overwhelmed and think we can’t make it another second. Sometimes, we think that if the kids yell one more time, or the baby pukes on you yet again, or won’t nap, or the toddler is in the markers, AGAIN… that we really may lose our minds… And you know what?
IT. IS. OK.
It really is OK that is stinks sometimes. It is ok to admit that it is hard. It is!
I know I have written on this before, but each new addition our family has had, I have to remind myself of this truth. I have to remind myself that even though some days are HARD, they are WORTH it. We need to focus on the positives. It WILL get better and you don’t have to LOOOOOOVE every aspect of motherhood in order to love being a mother.
It also doesn’t mean we don’t realize we are blessed. We know we are blessed. We know we are SO SO blessed to have the children we do, but that doesn’t mean it still isn’t hard sometimes. It is OK to admit it is hard.
I am currently sitting in my bedroom with earphones on, the box fan on high, watching a cheesy romantic Christmas movie (that I have seen before haha) and drinking a glass of red wine because it was one of “those” days.
Do I love my children? Yup. My family feels so much more complete with the addition of Simon… but that doesn’t negate that the first 5-6 months are hard for me or that some days I don’t feel completely overwhelmed with having three little people to take care of.
Three mouths to feed. 30 fingers to clean. 30 toes to trim. Three little people to calm when they get upset. Sometimes it feel like TOO much…
But you know what? I don’t think it makes me a bad mother. I think the only thing that makes me a “bad mother” is the self doubt, negative talk, listening to the lies and the guilt trips that us mothers like to listen to.
We yelled today? We STINK!
We didn’t make a home cooked meal? WOW, you are NOT a good mom
You let the baby CRY for 10 min while finishing folding the laundry? How DARE you!? Don’t you know it causes brain damage!?
You let your children watch ANOTHER movie? You really should stop doing that, you will cause ADD
And on. and on. and on.
WHY do we do this to ourselves mama’s?!
That is not what the Lord would want for us. We know this. I also believe, truly believe, that He does not want us hiding and stuffing the bad days away, faking it in front of others so we look like the “perfect mother”
I think the Lord wants us to share in our struggles so that we can encourage one another, speak truth to one another, pray for one another. The Bible says we need to share in joy AND in sorrow. Some days in motherhood are hard. We cannot make this journey alone. We were never meant to. We were made for fellowship, support, love, and encouragement.
“Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.” Galatians 6:2
So mama’s. Let’s stop the negative, self sabotaging talk we do to ourselves and share with each other. Share your struggles. Share your weaknesses. Let’s help each other THROUGH the bad days. Let’s help each other focus on the positives so that the hard days don’t seem so hard.
Motherhood won’t always be easy. Every day won’t always be the “best day ever”, but I believe when we are open and honest with each other, supporting each other, praying for one another, encouraging one another, that “those” days will become less and less, and the good days and the days we realize, through Christ, we CAN make it, will become more and more common!
“Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.” 1 Thessalonians 5:11