In this day and age it seems there is SO much focus on HOW much money you have, stuff you own, how big your house is, what brand your car is, how many cars you own, do you have vacation houses? Oh you don’t well you just suck. Do you have a bedroom for each child? WHAT. OH.MY.GOSH, they have to SHARE?! The NERVE!!! You just cannot provide for your children. What KIND of parent are you to make them share? You know, we have had this happen to us. We want more children and are in a 3 br/1 bath house. We have been teased and told we will get tired of only one bathroom,and kids having to share a bedroom, and shouldn’t have anymore kids. UMM. OK. I do not think requiring my children to share a bath or bedroom is the end of the world. I am pretty sure Jesus is all for learning to share…
This blog may seem harsh, and it may seem like a you know what slap, but it meant to challenge, remind, and help us know what is most important. Yes, I said US, I could use the reminder sometimes too. We ALL can. This is truth in love. Sometimes the truth hurts though. LOL.
Warning: Rant coming. LOL.
Watching some of these house shows on TV sometimes make me physically ill. The attitudes some people have about homes or things in homes astonishes me. LOL. People looking at a 3000+ square foot house for them and their one, or two, child, they don’t want anymore children, and have the nerve to say it is TOO small. A HUGE bedroom is TOO small. What the heck do you need a big room for!? YOU ONLY USE IT FOR SLEEPING!!! And on top of that, you can only be in ONE room at a time, and you only take up so much square footage. Why do you need 50 bajillion square feet? If you and your stuff cannot fit in a more than modest amount of space, then perhaps you should get RID of some stuff? Novel concept huh? LOL.
We don’t have the biggest house. It is 1150 square feet on the main 2 floors. The basement is finished, so it gives us a little extra space for play and hang out. You should see the closets. Andrew and I SHARE, yes I said SHARE, a closet that has ONE rod and is probably only about 3 feet wide. Yup. I just don’t buy alot of clothes. I can only wear one thing at a time, and I do laundry. Back in the day people only had a few shirts and a few pair of pants. I LOVE our quaint little townhouse. It is PERFECT. It has charm and character. I could care less if bedrooms are smaller. Ours is plenty big. We have enough space to fit nicely and room to grow and learn. What more does one need? It keeps us safe, sheltered. It has heat and running (safe) water.
People need to remember how most of the rest of the WORLD lives. A lot of the world doesn’t have heat or AC, or safe water, much less RUNNING water! Most have one room houses. Other countries have smaller houses and manage to do fine. They get out and LIVE life, which as Christians, we should be out there sharing not hiding away, right? Other countries view of big is WAY different than here. It is quite sickening when I think about it really. How spoiled and selfish we can be sometimes! The same type of things can apply to cars and anything else this world advertises as “bigger and more expensive is better” – we have modest cars too, lol, but I will save that story for another time, cause it is pretty amazing 🙂
End of truth… I mean rant 😉
There is nothing wrong with wanting a happy, nice, or well decorated home. I LOVE decorating and setting up our home. I use cheap stores to do it though 😉 and no one has ever known. I have made a warm, inviting space for guests, my husband and my family. I LOVE doing that! There is nothing wrong with desiring that. There isn’t even anything wrong with people who ARE rich. I know many people who have worked hard for what they have, they have good jobs, provide for their families, etc. There is nothing wrong with that.
There is, however, something wrong with a WRONG attitude toward money or what it buys. There IS something wrong with wanting a big house (or whatever else) to show off, or be better than your neighbor, or try and prove yourselves or your worth. There IS something wrong for wanting a big, expensive house,or things, or technology, or cars, etc just because you think you HAVE to to “fit in” etc. There is something wrong with having a selfish, ungrateful, or spoiled attitude about money. I also will go as far to say there is something wrong with always thinking you need more money or want more money. That isn’t being content or trusting the Lord. That is having a LOVE of money. This may seem harsh, but it is the truth, and the Bible has QUITE a lot to say on money and the wrong attitudes that oftentimes accompany it. We need to be on guard.
Money does NOT buy happiness. As much as some think it does, it won’t ever be enough. Without Christ their life, they will always feel the need to have more. Want more. Strive for more. more. more. Money cannot and WILL not satisfy. Only Jesus can. You do not need a 5000 square foot house in order to be good parents. I know MANY large families (like 6-8 children large) who do not even have that much space and they are loving, kind and caring people with a happy family. If you do have a big house, or car, of whatever else, fine! Just be careful of the attitude and desires behind wanting that. The Bible says:
“For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evils. It is through this craving that some have wandered away from the faith and pierced themselves with many pangs.” 1 Timothy 6:10
YIKES!!! If this were in real life, I think we may see that bright yellow caution tape surrounding money. The Lord is cautioning us in this verse. We need to watch out and be on guard.
Our greatest treasure is in Jesus Christ. NOTHING in this life is forever and you cannot take any of it with you. The gift of family and things that surround it is so much more “rich” and valuable than anything money can provide! Trust in the Lord, and he WILL provide what you need. (Philppians 4:19) I have been there. My husband was unemployed almost a year, and we had a new baby! He really does provide our needs. The Lord knows the world takes money to live. He WILL provide. We have to trust Him! He will lead us to the right job, home, car, etc to provide those needs. We just have to trust Him and not get into a greedy mindset.
“The kingdom of heaven is like treasure hidden in a field, which a man found and covered up. Then in his joy he goes and sells all that he has and buys that field.” Matthew 13:44
But you see, needs and wants are different. Now, I am not saying there is anything wrong with getting things you “want” sometimes. I do sometimes! Again, it is the heart issue, attitude and desires behind that… The Bible says:
“Better is a little with the fear of the Lord than great treasure and trouble with it.” Proverbs 15:16
“Take my instruction instead of silver, and knowledge rather than choice gold, for wisdom is better than jewels, and all that you may desire cannot compare with her.” Proverbs 8:10-11
I will add that purposely being “poor” (or rude toward those who DO have things or more money, but do so in a godly, biblical way) because you think it makes you more godly, or a better Christian than those who have wealth, can be, and is just a wrong of an attitude about money as always wanting more or being selfish and greedy. It is all about your ATTITUDE of money. A heart issue. The LOVE of money, selfishness and greed.
It is better to be poor and have Christ, than to be rich but not have Christ. It is better to have wisdom than wealth. This worlds riches and fortune don’t save you. They don’t make you better, smarter, and honestly, money doesn’t mean you are necessarily more successful either. Money and stuff don’t make things “better”. They don’t fill the empty void that only the Lord can fill. Only the blood of Jesus saves. Only Jesus truly satisfies. He can satisfy in a way that money, things, or riches NEVER can, or will EVER compare to!